Online Doms And Other Stuff

First of all ... sweet bajayzus! I hope I'm doing this right, Yen. :)

Second of all ... I have just been neatly Dommed online.

I never did quite catch the 'online Domming' thing. Nor the 'Domming over the phone' thing. Both seemed like a potentially dangerous thing to do with my submissiveness. However, when you crave being submissive (to someone you trust) like a crack fiend craves the next hit, then you'll [read: I'll] take what you can get.

He's from Canada, and he's become my friend first. He hasn't been pushy at all. In fact, I sometimes think that he likes me more from my intelligence than for anything else. That, and my wonderful sense of sarcasm.

But, I was tipsy tonight (damn Kahlua is the DEVIL), and feeling extraordinarily subby, and he just sort of swung into that mode.

It was very odd to see him do that. But since I trust him quite a bit, and know he's being very careful with me (even in our completely vanilla conversations, I can tell he is), then it was shockingly easy for me to slip into sub mode and let him Dom me like that.

Very shocking.

I would be lying if I said that it didn't satisfy that little craving I have. It was more like a sort of an exchange between good friends, and I liked the vibe I got from the whole thing.

However, being Dommed online like that leaves much to be desired ... on both ends. On my end, I don't get the touch and the pain administered by someone ELSE. On his end, he really can't see how I'm reacting and probably has trouble judging how things work when he's doing them (which is why he's careful.) Plus, there's no nuzzling and cuddly hugs after, and no touch to make things better. It leaves me wanting and very puzzled sometimes.

I'm unsure if I want to do either the phone thing or the online thing again. We'll see.

In other news, I've been asked to consider going to visit another Dom friend of mine who lives up north (not Canada :) .) I've known him for about two months all told, and he's very sweet and seems to like me a lot, which is what I look for first. He's also offered to pay for the ticket.

He's insisting I have a friend of mine run his name in through security, he's insisting I have someone to call at certain times while I'm up there to let them know I'm okay, and he's insisting that we have generally established rules and a safeword. All of said insisting makes me feel better about the whole thing, but going to meet someone you've never met before is still a scary thing.

Scary, but I -still- think I want to do it.

He told me to take as much time as I wanted to think about it, which I'm going to do. I really do think he's a pretty great guy, and maybe going up there will actually help me. Who knows?

That's it for the randomness of this post. What do you guys think?